This is something I have been wondering about for a little while now. When we clean, we do a lot of single family houses that have two kids or more. These are affluent people with disposable income and much of said income is disposed on said kids. The ways this income is disposed on these children varies. Sports for some. Dance for others. Fine arts for some more. Art for others. The houses are full of it. Pictures, photos, trophies, and costumes. One kids family sends her to Acting day care. Yes, an actual theater day care. This kid is 4. How much of this does the kid actually pick up? So here is my question.....
When does being a supportive parent stop and being a pushy stage/sport parent start?
Like with the 4 year old actor..... does that kid actually know what she's doing is acting, or is it just a fun activity with crazy dress up that goes with it? Or the soccer kid's parents.... are they the driving force behind this boy's being in soccer every year, or is the kid really a soccer fanatic? It's getting hard to tell. I see the kids sometimes in the morning when we get to a place early. The Mom's and Dad's are all, "Let's go Joshua! Your soccer practice starts in an hour and you want to be there early to practice for practice." or "Amanda! if you don't get your shoes on and get your dance bag we are going to be late and you'll never get the lead in the ballet!". I shake my head.
Now, I have my girls in dance. One attends the Sarasota Ballet, and the other the Dance program in her Magnet Middle School, but I swear to GOD I have never sounded like that! It's almost like the parent is the one who wants to get to practice early...... weird. They are living vicariously through their kids. I made sure my girls were at practice, were picked up on time, and I always go to the recitals! I like to be supportive, but I want them to want to do this for themselves, not because I am out there rooting them on. Rebecca has decided that she would like to try Spanish next year because chorus wasn't what she thought it would be for her. I said OK. Great. Have at that Spanish language! (Of course, she also got into advanced ballet and dance for next year too and that is truly where her heart is!) If that's what she wants, I will be supportive in that as well, speaking Spanish with her all the way!
I wonder if little Josh or Amanda's moms would feel the same way.