Sunday, March 1, 2009

What Can You Do....

.... When you have two birthdays coming up in the same week?

....When both of those birthdays are for your children?

....When both of those birthdays might get pushed back because we don't have any money to throw a party?

....When no one seems to want you for a job? Any job. Even a dish washing job!

....When your friends are too busy since you have moved to actually spend some time with you?

....When you just wish the world would stop being a jerk to people who should still be here but are not?

....When you just want to sleep but can't because you're too worried about your problems?

....When what you are looking forward to most is cooking a roast?

....When you want to treat your kids to some fun but you're broke?

*sigh*

20 comments:

Finn said...

You're going to have to get creative (and you so are) with the kids to give them a special day. And you can give them an IOU for gifts or whatever when things improve.

The only other thing I can say is tie a knot and hang on. Things are going to change. They always do. xo

Anonymous said...

You use this as an opportunity to teach your children that times get tough sometimes and they won't always get what they want - they WILL live without a big party and lots of presents. You can make a favorite dinner at home, buy a 99 cent box cake and show your child how much they mean to you. Spend the day playing games together, looking at old pictures and letting that child know just how much they mean to you.
Be thankful for the roof over your head - though it may not be ideal right now.
Be thankful for the support you receive from your friends that DO care.
Look to heaven and thank God that you are here for another day to spend with the ones you love and who love you. I can think of one family in particular right now that would give anything to have a healthy mother back with them right now. Makes your questions seem a bit trivial now, doesn't it?

Blondefabulous said...

FINN: yeah, we're going to get creative. A family dinner with cake and ice cream is always welcome.

ANON:That was uncalled for. The dig involving Lisa wasn't necessary AT ALL! I am grateful for my children as they are grateful for me..... choose another way to chastise me thank you very much. Don't be an ass!

Turnbaby said...

@ Anon--how cowardly

Blondefabulous said...

TURNBABY: Here here.

metalmom said...

@anon-Why would you say something like that? If you really "knew" that someone and her family, you would never have made that remark.

Blonde-Pull out a box of odds and ends and get creative with them let the kids do it themselves.Maybe a shaving cream sculpture contest on paper plates? You can do it!

upset waitress said...

That was a pretty douche nozzle thing to say from this Anon person. Bah, just a troll. Everyone dies. Doesn't mean we have to stop worrying about having a great b-day party for our kids.

Blondefabulous said...

METALMOM: I know, right?

I'm gonna do the family dinner thing for the kids. Eventually money will come and maybe we'll take off to Universal or something.

UPSETWAITRESS: Yes it was. Lisa was always saying, "It is what it is", and that's how I am taking our situation. Anon is so missing Lisa's point.

DutchBitch said...

The fact that this douchebag put his/her comment on here anonymously says it all.. pfffrrrttt!!! I say...

Blondefabulous said...

DUTCHBITCH: You said it!

Robin said...

@anon - how passive agressive of you....

Blonde - Screw the trolls. The less we keep feeding them, the longer they will stay away.

If you can swing a box cake with pretty icing and a good family dinner, that should do the trick. Kids flip out over the cake the most, anyway....at least I did when I was younger. Also, telling PG funny stories about mommy and daddy when they were little as well as "when you were a baby" stories always do the trick - will bring lots of laughs and great memories.

This too shall pass....

Finn said...

@Anon - That was out of bounds and you know it or you would have put your name on it.

Karl said...

Like the week isn't stressful enough for her without bringing Lisa into it? What an asshat.

I remember birthdays as a kid when there was no money. It doesn't have to be about the presents to make them feel special.

Blondefabulous said...

ROBIN: We're going to do the family dinner thing... cake and what not. No trolls invited, however.

FINN: Yep. Cowards abound when no name is present..

KARL: Asshats abound in the world. I wasn't upset that someone would differ from my point of view, I was more pissed they took something that had touched my heart and used it so perversely. Fuckers.

Anonymous said...

My apologies to anyone who felt I was out of line in referring to Lisa. It was not meant to be taken in such a negative light. Lisa's death has affected me greatly and quite frankly, I was simply trying to offer a little perspective - in the same way that I have gotten it.
I started reading this blog some time ago and I enjoyed it for a long time. I sympathize with your current situation, Blonde, I really do. But at the same time, it has really started to bother me. You were at an all time low and your friends helped to bail you out - you are not homeless, you are not hungry, you have a husband and children who love you and yet it feels like almost daily, you are complaining. It makes me so sad that you can't seem to focus on the good things. Lisa's death stings for me and it has made me more appreciative and grateful for what I DO have and less willing to "sweat the small stuff". Lisa was right - "it is what it is" so maybe you can stop worrying about all this "stuff" and just be thankful.
That's all I was trying to say-

phinz said...

I think I'd just zip it if I were you, Anon.

Sorry to all of you who lost Lisa. She sounds like she was an exceptional person.

Blondefabulous said...

ANON: Too late. But you are entitled to your opinion.... Lisa was special.

PHINZ: She was one of the best. That's why she is so missed.

HoosierGirl5 said...

Going bowling is relatively cheap and fun. And kids always like it. I agree with whoever suggested a pretty box cake. And some homemade "from mom and dad" gift certificates.

J.

Blondefabulous said...

HOOSIERGIRL: We are hoping to go skating.... f not, we're gonna gather up enough gas money to get to Universal. We have season passes so it's free.

HoosierGirl5 said...

Skating is fun, too. Oooh, Universal sounds like fun. Go there. Take me.

J.